Don't Expect It
If those who you trust haven’t brought you up in a particular way, do not expect them to help you in learning those very same ways.
At the extremes…
Don’t go to the greedy and expect generosity.
Don’t go to the slothful and expect discipline.
Don’t go to the lustful and expect anything more than degraded humanity.
Don’t go to the glutinous and expect pacing.
Don’t go to the covetous and expect an fulfillment.
Don’t go to the wrathful and expect peace.
Don’t go to the vain and expect love.