AtQ – What Do You Wish You Could Share?

Exploring Powerful Questions

In the most recent Talking Note I explored the idea of a hiding place – that space (literal and figurative) in which we can remove ourselves from the normal exposure of life for the sake of a different kind of exposure – an exposure of privacy, intimacy, and deep transforming love. So much of life can trend towards a forced exposure, expectations of showing up a certain way, and external priorities. None of these are inherently bad, but they can prevent the kind of internal inquiry that leads to foundational transformation.

Internal inquiry requires a safe space, free from condemnation, full of encouragement and love. Creating such a place is a cornerstone of the coaching experience. In such a space it may be possible to ask this question:

What do you wish you could share?

This question reframes the idea of hiding into one of sharing. Of all those things that we feel we must suppress to survive in the world, what do we wish we could share? Of all the things that we may be ashamed of, guilty of, or simply hide for the sake of privacy and protection, what do we wish could be out in the open? Such questions beget awareness – “I didn’t know I wanted to share that so much?” The awareness allows for observation and perspective shifting – “I hadn’t thought about that part of my life like that before.” This is just the beginning of change. Let’s dig in a little further into how this works.